The Proactive 12 Steps: Relational Mindfulness as secular alternative
Millions of people credit the Twelve Steps for their recovery from addiction to alcohol and other substances. But the original 12 steps are not a list of instructions specific to substance abuse or addiction. They describe a path toward self-discovery and personal growth. It is a path that leads to a better relationship with yourself, with others, and with the world. This is what I find very inspiring.
The Proactive Twelve Steps follow the structure of the original 12 steps in describing how you can rebuild your sense of self, and your life, by changing how you relate to people and situations. The Proactive 12 Steps describe the “steps” as a self-directed process—as opposed to a mystical process in which change somehow happens to you. This is meant for all people who seek wholeness in their lives, not just people dealing with alcoholism or addiction.
I originally wrote these steps for people who, like me, were not part of the Twelve Steps culture. Over time, many people involved in Twelve Steps recovery have told me that they find inspiration in these “proactive steps”: Not necessarily as a replacement for the wording they are so familiar with, but as a way to gain a new perspective on it.
This down-to-earth approach describes a path that is meaningful regardless whether your orientation is humanist, secular (non-religious) or spiritual or religious.
This is the Beta version of the 4th edition of the Proactive 12 Steps. Compared to earlier editions, there are substantial differences in the wording of the steps, and especially in the commentary.
A video commentary on each step has been released each week, starting October 2 for Step 1. Now, over the next couple of months, more changes will be made to incorporate feedback from Beta users. If you'd like to be notified when new material is posted, please subscribe to the newsletter.
Beta version means that user comments will be taken into consideration to finalize the wording of the steps and the commentary. Your comments on each specific step and on the approach as a whole are welcome. Please share your comments.
See all steps: Proactive 12 Steps Online Workbook